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Over time, most people will just not want to have sex as often as they did in their youth, but couples can find themselves dealing with different rates of sexual proclivities. Marriages in particular suffer from this issue to the point of infidelity, separation and divorce. One of the biggest reasons for these untimely demises of sacred vows simply points back to a lack of understanding. A wife may feel that her resources are stretched so thin that they have no choice but to cut something out, usually sex. It’s not that they desire it less, it just comes lower on the list of things that they need to dedicate time to. By contrast, men are socially engineered to put sex higher on their list of priorities, which ends up making them less sensitive to the dynamics behind their wives engaging in it less often.


The one thing you can do to make your wife want more sex is simply to listen. It sounds far fetched, but listening to her wants, desires, frustrations and complaints can help to create a happier marriage and expose more resources. No one wants to fight are argue, but listening should not be compared to the two. Maybe your wife has been left unsatisfied with your sexual performance and wants to taking some time away to get things in perspective. Other times, daily priorities will make sex a mentally exhausting and physically taxing endeavor. During the act, listen to your wife and ask her how she feels so that you can find out what makes her tick. If you have a firm understanding of what she likes as well as what keep her from having sex with you, you just may be able to get as much as you want.

If you think romance consists of telling your wife to roll over in the middle of the night because you woke up with an erection, try again. Every single woman loves nothing more to spend romantic time alone with her lover before collapsing into the throws of passion. To make your wife want more sex, try getting creative with a few spur of the moment romantic outings. A romantic evening doesn’t have to cost a lot of money, actually, it doesn’t even need to take place at night. All romance means is that you’re prepared a designated time in which you and your wife are meant to connect on a deeper level, all by yourselves. Women often feel neglected, so to surprise her with an activity that meant you had to be thinking about her in advance will thrill her beyond belief. Naturally, the time you spend together will likely be non-sexual in nature, but it will be obvious that intercourse will be appearing later on the menu.

Try making a meal that includes all of her favorite foods, a night bottle of wine, some candles and a new rented movie. You’ll definitely impress her by cooking her favorite meal, probably even if you destroy the kitchen in the process. After downing an entire bottle of wine and ending the evening while watching a movie, it’s safe to say that you’ll end up fooling around on the couch before heading to the bedroom. Not only will you wake up to a big smile in the morning, you probably just won yourself a ticket to a repeat performance.

Far too many guys are eager to commence to the act without putting in the proper amount of work on their ladies beforehand. If you are lucky enough to have your wife simply ask for sex, don’t take advantage of the situation and act selfishly. Instead, spend a little time making sure that she is up to the task by ensuring that her motor is running just as strong as yours is.

Unlike men, women may mentally want to have sex but their bodies may not necessarily be there yet. Just one instance of doing the do without warming up your wife’s lady parts will turn her off completely. Do it repeatedly and she just might swear of sex for weeks at a time. If you want to make your wife want more sex you will need to spend  the proper amount of time and spend quality attention to her physical needs first.

Foreplay is not to be confused with romantic gestures like jewelry, candy and flowers. While those things are nice too, they will do little for a woman’s libido. Also, don’t think that foreplay consists of oral stimulation only. Many women respond quite well to having their necks, thighs, backs and stomachs attended to in a plethora of different fashions.

Deep kisses, caressing and exploration doesn’t have to take a long time, but it should last longer than a minute or two.

The point is, foreplay should never be rushed, but take care to pay attention to the indicators that will tell you when it’s time to go for the gusto.

You don’t need gizmos and gadgets for good foreplay, but if you’re looking to spice things up, there’s always oils, edible lingerie, toys, and other fun items to try out for variety.

Now, before you read this next suggestion to make your wife want more sex, you will need to know that sometimes a little cunning behavior will be needed to get the desired results. If you’ve already tried asking, romantic evenings, getting yourself fit and sophisticated looking, then you may just have to throw in the towel. That doesn’t mean that you are giving up on getting the goods, it just means that you will appear that way to your wife. If you’ve been putting your best foot forward, it is safe to say that your woman has noticed. Who really knows what’s in their heads, but they aren’t clueless when it comes to the topic of men wanting more sex. In these situations, it is best to act like you are no longer interested in getting your wife in the sack. Note that this will be hard, stressful and at best, an extremely trying time that best both your sanity and any physical indicators.


If your wife has seen that you are hard up for sex, then she will likely be waiting to see what step you take next. While she’s waiting for the real wow factor, you should be busy taking an interest in, I don’t know, maybe golfing. Plan a romantic evening at home, and ½ way through the movie announce that you are tired and want to hit the sack. If your wife isn’t five seconds behind you, then you may want to consider that there are very serious underlying issues that need to be addressed.

Nothing makes a guy happier than when his wife is the aggressor and makes a sexual rendezvous happen. While this situation can be just as enthralling for the woman, don’t expect it to happen every single time. Men and women both enjoy being pursued, but if either party feels that they are more of the aggressor than the prize then they are likely to back off a bit. Even if you haven’t been depending on your wife to initiate most sexual liaisons, you should still initiate it if you really want it. The worst that can happen is being shot down, but if you do nothing, well, then nothing will happen. Initiating sex repeatedly probably wont make your wife want more sex, but it will at least let you know that the problem isn’t on your end.

A lot of people fail to realize that initiating sex isn’t just a subtle hint or an offer of selfless carnal pleasures. If you really want to have sex, then you need to open up your mouth and ask for it. Many times, it is hard to vocally express what you want in a tactful and undemanding way, but you can get better at this with practice. Be well prepared to engage in a conversation on the topic of sex, complete with a list of what you want, what you are willing to give and list of questions for your wife. Often, if you can talk it out then you will come to a consensus that will give both of you the sex that you crave along with the closeness that is necessary.